‘Look Mummy. Look. Look. Look look look.’
I was in the kitchen while he stood in the hallway… ‘Look Mummy.’ ‘Look’.
And so it went on like this everyday; several times a day. Several times an hour actually. Finally, after having my thought process interrupted one too many times, I snapped back at him, No more looks! I am not going to look anymore!
Jack stood in the hallway staring sadly at me, ‘I just wanted to show you this drawing.’
Now don’t get me wrong, I love that Jack and Sarah want to show me their work, or something interesting they have stumbled upon. I love that they want to share these things with me. But the constant look Mummy, well it was driving me more than a little crazy!
After thinking about it some more I decided to try a new approach. I knew they wanted to share something with me but they weren’t talking to me. They were simply saying look and often times from another room in the house.
I wanted Jack and Sarah to know that I was genuinely interested in what they wanted to show me but I needed to show them how to do it. No more look Mummy.
So our conversation went a little like this:
Jack (5.75 yrs) from the hallway or yelling from his room: “Mummy look!”
Me: “Will you come here please and tell me about it?”
Jack, walking to me: “Look”
Me: “Tell me about what you would like to share with me.”
Jack: “I drew this cool picture and…..”
The look Mummy habit was proving a hard one to break but over the last few weeks both Jack and Sarah (3.75 yrs) have started to communicate what it is they want to share with me.
And I am finding too, after not being told to look a thousand times a day, that I am more patient when they come to me.
This morning Jack says to me:
(walking up to me and standing next to me) “Mummy I built this really cool Zoob person in the playroom, would you like to come and see it?”
“Yes. I would love to.” “Thank you for coming and telling me about it.”
Ahh it was like heaven to my ears! Just a few weeks ago he would have yelled from the playroom, ‘look Mummy’. I would have had no idea what he wanted me to look at and probably would have been a little annoyed that he shouted to me from another room.
Now, after a lot of encouragement to come to me and explain what they want to show me, Jack and Sarah are starting to break the look Mummy habit.