Controversial Dancing Stories That Split The Internet

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My five-year-old daughter started dancing last year. Her mom, a former gymnast, wanted her to dance, but my daughter hated it. She prefers tap and ballet. My wife got upset because she felt the daughter was not used correctly. The wife feels the instructor should listen to her gymnast background. The tension between the wife and the instructor made other moms angry when the wife compared their daughters' treatment to theirs. This ruined our daughter's experience.

Other moms stopped inviting our daughter to playdates after disliking my wife. My daughter comes home crying, wanting playdates again. My wife said the daughter will make friends in kindergarten; she downplayed the issue. This studio is where she plans to attend for years. I do not see how she understands that conflict with other parents excludes our daughter.

She told me the other moms are rude and she will always defend our daughter. She told me I must stop fearing them. My daughter no longer wants class; she cries when I pick her up. Parents and instructors were nice to me during pickup; one invited her daughter to a party but said I must take her. My wife exploded, saying it was strange she asked me to take our daughter and that she couldn't go. I called it ridiculous, but she would not change it. It happened on a workday, so I could not take her.

I got tired. My daughter kept complaining about hating the studio and dance. I dis-enrolled her when I picked her up. She cried, saying she never wanted to return.

When I told my wife, she became angry, calling me an evil asshole. She said I should have talked to her first before acting. I told her she ruined our daughter's experience by fighting parents and instructors and pushing our daughter away from other girls. She insisted I was the only one wrong and an asshole because this is the best studio in town and others have long waitlists.

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I, age 35, am married to my 37-year-old husband for six years and work as a nurse for three children.

We ate Thanksgiving dinner at my in-laws' house. Every family member was present. My brother-in-law started talking about his girlfriend's new dance hobby. He said she dances every night after Zumba classes. The men in the family showed interest. They talked about it in detail while the women just rolled their eyes. Then, my husband threw his fork. He looked at me and said, "HEY Jess! Why can't you dance for ME when you come home every night like (BIL's GF)?"

His question shocked me; I thought he was joking. No. I saw people staring. My cousin-in-law sang "Dance Monkey" sarcastically. I reacted. I stated, "I don't know. Maybe because after I get home, I cook, clean, feed the kids, do dishes, put the 8-month-old to sleep, clean the dirty bathroom and bedroom, and then fall asleep the second I hit the bed from working on my feet all day. Then I come back to a messy house and demand things from my kids and husband. I must be a terrible wife not to find time to dance!"

He froze. The table went silent. My SIL's jerk husband, who dislikes my husband, started laughing. He said, "Good God! Guess turkey... I mean chicken's really coming home to roost, huh?!" My husband turned pale. He told everyone he needed a minute outside. He walked out, and I followed. He yelled at me, "Great job making Thanksgiving awkward and embarrassing me in front of my family like that." An argument started. He said he wanted to leave after I put him in an awkward spot with the family.

We got home. He shut down. I stayed with the kids and could not sleep. I called my MIL (his stepmom). She told me to be good for calling him out, as he crossed a line. But she might be biased since she hates him too. I felt guilty thinking I messed up and ruined Thanksgiving for everyone.

From Redditor u/Da_Rooster913:

My dad died a couple of days ago. It took a long time, made worse by COVID. I am handling the funeral plans as the executor of his estate. I included my aunts and uncle in the planning out of respect. While we talked, my aunt said my cousin, who has Asperger Syndrome, wants to do an interpretive dance at the church in front of the casket to say goodbye to my father.

I said no. This is happening in a church. The priest might have a stroke. My cousin is not a good dancer. He loves dancing, but I do not want his moves at my dad's funeral for "Candle in the Wind."

My aunt is upset. My cousin is upset too. He accused me of not letting him say goodbye his way. I told him he can dance at the grave anytime. The funeral is not that time. Another cousin said he planned to record it for YouTube, which I said no to.

I do not think this is respectful. My dad would have hated this turning into a show. AITA?

From Redditor u/BalletBreaker:

I, an 18-year-old professional ballet dancer, attend classes six days a week. A 13-year-old student joined our Saturday morning class recently. She is sweet, but her parents made her wear tutus and shoes expecting a star. The girl seemed determined to please them. So, the older members and I took her under our wing to help her settle in and learn.

I quickly noticed she could not get over her box. This might be poor pointe shoes. I could not help now. I asked to see her shoes one morning and saw they were not adjusted or broken in. This explains why she could not get over the box.

I helped her break them in. This process is intense for those unaccustomed to it. Dents in one wall show all the breaking in. I taught her shoe customization basics and helped her make them comfortable. The class went well; she seemed much better.

The next week, her mother brought her to class. She went straight to me, demanding to know why I "destroyed" her daughter's shoes. I knew how much they cost and that I should replace them since she could not wear them. I was surprised. I stared at her, then got annoyed. I told her we all break in shoes; it is the only way to do ballet properly. I know how expensive they are; I buy a pair for each performance.

I told her she knew nothing about ballet. Unbroken-in shoes would ruin her daughter's feet and stop her from dancing. If she was serious, she needed to know this was an expensive purchase. The balletmaster then asked what the noise was about. The mother then said I ruined her daughter's shoes and she could not afford new ones now. They needed the shoes to last her daughter at least six months.

She got embarrassed and upset, then stormed out. She called our class a joke and claimed we were trying to sabotage her daughter. I think about the kid's face and how mortified she looked. Our balletmaster says I did nothing wrong. She thinks this is a lesson a 13-year-old needs if she wants to dance seriously. I wonder if she will return Saturday. I doubt it because of her mother's reaction. Perhaps I should have spoken to her mother after class instead of just helping.

From Redditor u/Fikitty2204:

My friend (24M), a very gifted dancer in bhangra and Bollywood, invited me to a beginner class. This was not my usual thing (two left feet!), but I wanted to spend time with him and meet new people.

I did not have beginner's luck in that class; I looked clumsy. My friend went to the rest area and filmed my dancing failure to mock me. I knew it was a joke. But when I asked him to delete it, he refused and made fun of me more. I felt very self-conscious. I left the session and waited for him outside. Him not deleting the video after seeing me upset made things ten times worse.

Apparently, I did not act discreetly. People asked him why I left, and he said he found it embarrassing. Afterward, we argued. He claimed that if I did not appreciate a funny video taken of me, I must lack friends, and he made more comments about how I embarrassed him.

The argument had been building on my side too. My friend criticizes my looks, my working-class status, and how I dress.

Both of us could be the jerk, but I am starting to doubt if my feelings matter.

From Redditor u/bdhshxbeuaita55wed:

I recently attended my sister’s wedding alone. At the reception, I saw a slower-type dance.really beautiful womanBy herself, I asked her to dance. She mentioned she was recently separated, so she was not looking for romance, but she agreed to dance with me. We danced a few songs and enjoyed each other’s company. We exchanged numbers, and she left to go home.

Outside for a smoke, I saw a guy glaring. I asked if he wanted a smoke; he told me to “lose her number.” I ignored him and went back inside. I asked my sister who he was, and she said he was that woman’s recent ex-husband (they were just separated, not divorced yet).

When I told my sister, she said the ex was the groom's friend, which is why he attended the reception. She advised me I probably should not dance with someone so recently separated.

I did little wrong, but I feel bad about causing a scene with her ex. AITA?

From Redditor u/Scrunchiqueen:

I (26F) have taken dance lessons for a couple of years. Every January or February, we have a dance recital. I attend every class and perform at every recital. I make costumes for our and other groups. I always show up with a big smile and much energy. I am notthe best dancer, but I am not the worst; I blend in.

I am an introvert. I do not mind standing on stage for three minutes doing the dance routine with a group. I also do not mind standing in the back if I remain part of the group. These past months, we practiced a lot. My position was mostly to the right, but I sometimes moved more up front or to the middle. I felt good with this position.

Our last rehearsal was on stage. Instead of the usual setup, my teacher positioned everyone else, gave notes on where they needed to stand, and corrected them. She told me to stand in the back corner. I could not move more up front or to the middle as we always rehearsed. I had to stay in that corner always. When I asked her about it, she said I should not complain because it is easy for me to remember (you should know I learned our routines fastest, and they nicknamed me the “memory of the group” because I remember all the small details).

I followed the instructions, but because of this, the group moves across the stage while I stay in the corner. This made me feel like I was no longer part of the group. It felt like I never came to class, just showed up for the recital and they needed a quick position for me. Because of this, I also (almost every time) bump into someone else, since he is used to standing in that spot during a certain part of the routine where I used to move more up front.

Others told me to just do the routine like we always did and move more with them. Every time I did, our teacher told me to go back to that corner. I cried through the rest of the rehearsal and after, I went home crying, hiding it. I did not want to seem like the drama queen. I cried all night because this made me feel they only see me as the seamstress making recital dresses, not as a dancer or part of the group.

I let that sink in for a day. Then, I texted my teacher, asking if we could shift the positions slightly so I wouldn't hit the other dancer. I told her I felt terrible about how the rehearsal went. She sent a short reply saying we would not change anything.

So, AITA for not wanting to dance at the recital anymore because of this?Am I overreacting?And being a drama queen and just getting over it?

Redditor u/TheRatGoddess:

I am a senior at a performing arts high school, majoring in dance. One major show is Young Choreographers in Concert (YCC), where seniors choreograph a dance for underclassmen. Part of this process involves showings. A teacher watches your dance and gives you notes. All this happens online because of COVID.

For my second showing, I sent the teacher an edited video of all my dancers to get tips since I am new to that. The showing went well. My teacher advised me to have my dancers film again for cleaner dancing. After she left, one dancer told me she could not film because she sprained her ankle. She said I could not tell the teacher because she would rather fake dancing. I thought, that is not smart, but do what you want. Remember RICE: rest, ice, compression, elevation. Everything went well. I got their second videos, put everything together, and sent it to my teacher so she could check the final version.

Yesterday, she messaged me asking why my injured dancer faced the wrong way in one part and if she could record it again. I got nervous. I knew I had a good answer, so I told her she was injured and I would not make her dance on a sprained ankle. She replied, thanking me for telling her and for looking out for my dancers. Later, that dancer texted me, saying I should not have done that, that I was rude, and that I should have just flipped the image or told her what was happening.what was happening. She said her parents found out she was hiding it, and now she is in trouble at home too.

I feel awful. I did not want her to get in trouble. I just tried to explain things to my teacher and keep my dancer safe. I am confused. I am glad she is not dancing, but now I put her in a bad spot. AITA?

From Redditor u/No-Pressure3284:

I, a 29M, plan a wedding now. We are sorting out the details. My parents divorced when I was five. This happened after my dad fell for his current wife, Alice, my stepmom. They say they didn't cheat but waited to separate before anything physical. I do not know if that is true now. My dad and Alice married and lived together by age seven. They had my two siblings within four years. My parents split custody, and Alice acted as a mother figure to me. We are very close. She supported me through every hard moment. Alice also paid for my college and grad school; I appreciate that. My mom is a good parent, but we never connected as much as I do with my dad and Alice. Our personalities just differ greatly.

We are planning the first dances now, and I have my first dance with my fiancée; she has chosen hers with her dad. Her parents are still married, so there is no conflict there. Being so close to Alice, I did not feel right excluding her and only dancing with my mom, so I asked her if she would be comfortable dancing with me too. She was thrilled and cried. I am really looking forward to it.

But my mom reacted badly once she found out. She said I am replacing her like my dad replaced her. I told her I am not a replacement. She has supported me her whole life, and I see her as a true "bonus mother," so I do not want to leave her out. She will not accept that.

Yesterday, my aunt (my mom's sister) called and scolded me. I know it is a bit controversial, but I want to do this. AITA for doing this and having two mother-son dances? I have attended several weddings with steps involved and two mother-son or father-daughter dances, and it seemed sweet, not excessive. I would shorten the songs so they are not too long, if that matters.

From Redditor u/Traditional-Echo1003:

I, a 19F, have danced at the same school for ten years. I know the principal well. I teach her three times a week. Every Saturday, I perform with a dance group. We are all close and get along well.

We cleaned up something for competition this morning. An injury stops me from kneeling a certain way. A pain condition makes my pain unpredictable; some days it is fine, other days it hurts badly. She knows this and acts graceful. We ran the dance a few times with me in a different leg position, so I could do it.

Class reached its final minutes. She told us to run the dance full out. My ankle hurt badly, so I sat the same way I had for every other run. When she asked me to sit up like the others, I said no. She screamed at me in front of everyone and shouted at the girls if they moved. She kept yelling at me even after I started crying from pain and embarrassment. I picked up my things and left. I told her I quit as I walked out.

She texted me twenty minutes ago: “I hope you don't pull that stunt again. I expect you to be full out on Tuesday. If not, I will cut you.”

I messaged back: “I made it clear I am not coming back. You have ignored the fact that I am disabled and cannot do some things in the classes I attend all the time.”

She replied: “You are part of a team. You cannot leave that team right before show and competition season.”

She ignores my disabilities often. She even said her dog could be an assistance dog, and she wanted to take it anywhere. She has made me uncomfortable before in one-on-one classes, calling them 'jokes.' This felt humiliating. I do not enjoy shows or competitions. She always makes me perform, saying I will miss out if I don't. She knows I get upset if I miss out.

AITA for leaving my dance team two weeks before an international competition?

From aformer Redditor:

My sister and I never get along. I don't know why. I wish I could fix it, but it is done. I invited her to country dancing with me every time I was home, but she never wanted to go.

My date for her wedding was my swing dance partner. We danced the entire night, tearing up the floor. Every country song meant we danced, even if the floor was empty or packed. We had a blast. I did not want to be there because my sister put my seven-year ex in the bridal party. The groom barely knew him and does not like him. My dance partner asked my sister to dance three times; she said no. She danced several times with the maid of honor, who does not swing dance, but followed leads and performed well.

Family members told me my dancing at the wedding was wrong and I needed to act less. Some even said I hired a pro dancer as my date (he isn't... I met him junior year of college while we danced weekly at a bar).

Was I right to dance how I know how to dance, or should I have toned it down for the wedding?

From Redditor u/aita456:

I'm a 25M dancer. A few weeks ago, my dance group prepared for a competition. I told my mentor I wanted to compete in the couples' category. She asked if I had a partner and if I wanted him to be male or female. I did not think about this detail; I assumed she would assign a female partner. But she asked, and I thought having a male partner would be cool. I chose one. He agreed. We have practiced for two weeks.

My dance partner is gay, and I am gay. I have a boyfriend; we have been together for 1.5 years. My boyfriend did not seem worried about this. However, my best friend was shocked when she heard I was DANCING with another MAN several times a week. She called me an asshole for choosing a male partner when given the choice. If I had gotten a male partner, that was fine. But my friend thinks choosing a male partner is unacceptable. She believes my boyfriend pretends to be cool because she thinks he is "too cool about it." She thinks he is faking it.casuallystarted asking himsubtlequestions about it. He usually just jokes and changes the subject.

I am getting paranoid. 1.5 years is not long. Even though I know my boyfriend well, he might be pretending not to mind. I have no idea what to think. AITA?

From Redditor u/miniT354345:

My children’s dad and I separated and divorced two years ago. We cooperate on co-parenting. Since he is close to my brother, my brother invited him to his wedding. I was fine with it because the kids were happy to spend more time with Dad.

I filmed my mom and my kids at the wedding and posted it on Instagram. Hours later, my ex called, yelling that my camera caught him dancing drunk in the background. I asked, "So what?!" He said he is getting engaged to his conservative girlfriend soon. He warned that if she or her family saw him in the video, trouble would follow. I thought that was foolish. He demanded I delete it. I refused. He insisted he was "technically" recorded by my camera and he did not consent. I called him ridiculous and kept refusing. He has now involved the kids, which angered me and made the argument worse.

My mom wants me to take down the video, but I think he wants to control my social media. AITA for refusing? He said his girlfriend can see it through the kids since they use social media with me.

From Redditor u/goodidahopotato:

My kids are Bindi (17), Ava (14), and Fritz (9). My sisters and I plan an overnight trip late this month. With my oldest sister’s work schedule, the only time we can go is the 29th. We planned this for several weeks.

Bindi told me this week her school has a Halloween dance on the 29th. She got excited and planned her costume. I did not want to ruin her excitement, but I told her she cannot go. Fritz is severely autistic; he is nonverbal, makes no eye contact, and needs toilet training. This makes him much harder to leave with anyone than his sisters. I could easily find sitters for them when they were younger. Only Fritz's grandparents can take him outside the house that weekend, and they cannot watch him then. Bindi gets along well with Fritz, so she is our only option.

Bindi reacted poorly and asked why Ava cannot watch Fritz for a few hours while she is at the dance, since Ava has babysat before. Ava has surgery the Monday before, though nothing serious. She will not be healed enough to handle one of Fritz's meltdowns by Friday (this is a possibility, but not certain). Ava can help, but someone else must be there, and that person must be Bindi.

She replied that she “didn’t realize her siblings were so much more important” and went to her room, frowning. I knocked and called, but she keeps sending me to voicemail. I understand she is upset and looked forward to the dance—it is for juniors and seniors, and the school canceled it last year because of COVID. But I need her to make a small sacrifice for the family now. I plan to make it up to her. But does expecting her to be there for family make me the asshole?