Divisive Text Message Stories That Will Have You Hitting 'Block'

From Redditor u/throwaway910212:

I was at my boyfriend’s house, his dad was there, and his dad always creeps me out. He must have gotten my number from my boyfriend. This was so awkward, I did not want to reply, so I just left it. I told my boyfriend, and he said, "Yup," sounding exactly like him.

From Redditor u/Most_Somewhere_6849:

My girlfriend called me her ‘friend’.Am I overreacting??

Yesterday, my long distance girlfriend called me for our usual Thursday evening plan. She was on top of a mountain for a hike or run training with a group. Someone asked who she was calling, and she said, “my friend in Connecticut.”

I feel uncomfortable and upset she did not call me her boyfriend. I would not call her my ‘friend’ unless I was done with the relationship. Am I overreacting? Or is this a real worry?

We have recent struggles. I get less than the minimum in communication and affection. I brought this up, and it immediately turns against me every time. I do not know what to do about this situation.

From Redditor u/kiwitree91:

My boyfriend says he feels an ick whenever I reply to his texts right away and calls it obsessive. I click and respond right away because I am genuinely excited to talk to him. But he says he has an ick with it. I looked up what an ick was; it means being repulsed by someone you were once attracted to. Still, he says he loves me. This issue continues, and I need solutions.

From Redditor u/LedBubblez:

I (29F) found this text in my boyfriend’s (29M) messages with his coworker. I feel gutted by it. I do not want to overreact, but I also do not want to gaslight myself or underreact. I have never felt this way about him in our relationship, so I feel very surprised. How do I handle this?

From Redditor u/Worldly-Constant-353:

Context: We chatted for a couple of weeks on Hinge, then switched to texting after she canceled the first date. We set the date for last Sunday and finished the details the night before.

I had a busy day, took a nap, and did not text until a couple of hours before. I usually text something like looking forward to tonight, but I lost track of time. Honestly, I thought texting about the menu the night before confirmed everything? Was I wrong?

From Redditor u/GoldAbbreviations200:

M (21) and F (20) talk almost ten months. She is amazing and loving, but she wants constant contact. She used to demand sleeping on the phone nightly. I said that was unhealthy; it made nights without it feel like an excuse for her. She replied, "ok good night but I sleep better with you on the phone." She claimed that was the only way they could connect deeply, even though they texted all day and talked about things already discussed.

Now, she wants to text 24/7. She messages every 30 minutes asking "wyd" or sends constant updates like "I’m walking with my dad" or "we’re buying this and that." I like texting her; our talks are good. I also need time alone. If I don't reply enough or in detail, she asks "wyd" again or makes me feel I'm not paying enough attention.

I might be overthinking this. This constant texting feels like too much. How do I set boundaries without upsetting her?

From a Redditor:

This is his third time cheating. Last month, when he cheated a second time, she vented and cried to me. I consoled her; she said she would break up with him. The next week, I saw him and her together. She said, "He’s changed," then he cheated again.

From Redditor u/ScoobyDoobieBlue:

I am furious that all she said was this. She did not ask how I was doing, nor did she offer any support.

From Redditor u/raider_23:

Am I wrong for not texting my girlfriend often, even though we live together? I work from 3 p.m. to 11 p.m., and she finishes work at 3 p.m. We don't see each other much except on weekends and when I get home. I never text much. Am I wrong?

From Redditor u/Catspyjamas92:

When he drinks or meets friends, he usually doesn't text me during that time. He ends the night by texting goodnight and goes straight to sleep. I feel left out because I check my phone sometimes when I'm out to text or reply to him. His Apple Watch alerts him to messages, so it feels like he ignores me sometimes (which is fine if he told me that). Instead, he tries to soothe me with what he thinks I want to hear—like he didn't realize I would text or he hasn't checked his phone. He always apologizes, calls himself terrible, and says I am overreacting, but his apologies never change anything. I must change how I react. My emotions now link him drinking with him ignoring me and me getting upset. I need to break that pattern.

Am I overreacting and clingy? What fixes this?

From Redditor u/dragonfly-psych:

I am introverted. My partner and I live in a small house. He works late shifts sometimes. He does not text me if he leaves early. Sometimes he shows up home unexpectedly while I am enjoying the night. I like these solo nights. I want no one around. I like walking, doing what I want, watching YouTube without headphones, listening to music, keeping the lights on. I do my chores in peace. I do not have to talk. This is just reclaiming my time. He says I can do this, even if he is here or not. That is partly true. It is not the same as true solitude. He says he is too busy to text after his shift. He is not always on his phone. He says he "shouldn't be in trouble" for this. He calls it "no big deal." I said it is a small request that would make me happy. I just want a warning if my solitude ends. So, AITA?

He says he is too busy to text at the end of his shift. He is not always on his phone. He says he "shouldn't be in trouble" for this. He calls it "no big deal." I said it is a small ask that would make me happy. I want a warning if my solitude ends. AITA?