People Explain Why They Ghosted

From Redditor /u/NotACreepyWeirdo:

I met this guy on Tinder. He sent 5,736,272 messages daily. He complained if I took over five minutes to reply.

From Redditor /u/cherryredscrubs:

We ate the ribs I ordered. The next day, he asked strange questions about my family's bodies. He said, 'I've never seen a girl eat like that. I'm surprised you're not fat, but you'll likely get there even without your genes.' He ghosted me. I'm glad I got those ribs.

From Redditor /u/oast-my-ghost:

I had to ghost the girl before meeting my wife. She was a total psychopath. I tried to end things, and she pulled a knife on me. As soon as I assured her we could work out, I left and never returned.

She called me nonstop after I ignored her texts all day. I answered her call around 10 p.m. She said she was walking to my house, even though she lacked a car and we lived fifteen miles apart. I tried to tell her it was over, especially after her threats. She screamed incoherently for a minute. I laughed hysterically, then noticed she stopped. I said, 'Have a nice life, bye.' I turned off my phone and slept.

The police picked her up about five minutes after I hung up. Apparently, she started screaming again, so they called.

From Redditor /u/i_love_puppies12:

I went on a Tinder date with a guy. I felt nothing on the first date; I saw him as a friend. I told him that after the date. He made me feel guilty, saying he is used to girls not liking him. A week later, I gave him a second chance because I felt bad. I had never been on a date before, and I felt I owed him something for his time.

We planned a second date. He sent me Snapchats. One night, he sent Snapchats while driving. I told him to stop because it puts him and others at risk. He thought it was a joke, but I was serious. I would not want to be around a guy who shows little regard for others' lives.

I fear cars. Knowing he is a bad driver putting people at risk annoyed me. So I ignored him all day. He stopped contacting me. After about a week, I got a Snapchat. It showed me from a distance. I thought it was creepy, so I knew I would ghost him then.

From Redditor /u/Defenestrationism:

He acted creepy, annoying, and socially inappropriate; he ignored boundaries. I share some fault. It began with us kissing while I was drunk at a party. He treated that as instant life partnership. I told him the next day I was drunk and it meant nothing, we could still be friends... then the stalkerish behavior began.

He showed up at my place randomly, at odd hours, constantly asking about my schedule, where I was, and what I was doing. My landlady let me park in her barn so he wouldn't know I was home. My roommates warned me if they saw him coming down the driveway so I could tear out the back door into the woods to hide from him. He finally stopped when he learned I was never home.

Redditor /u/empiricaltheorist:

I agree. I have ghosted, and I am not always proud of it, but I can be scared. The guy gave me his number and told me to text him on a dating app after a first date. I considered saying, "I'm not interested," but I chose to ghost. I am not proud, but I did not want to face his reaction.

Redditor /u/kiyonisis:

Early on, when you barely know someone, you have no duty to start talking. If you go on a date or two and don't feel it, moving on socially is better. Asking someone out once and then calling later to say you are not interested seems too much and presumptuous. Both people can just move on without contact.

Redditor /u/n0ggy:

I ghost on Tinder a lot. The main reason is that the girl lacks initiative or is not interesting, witty, or fun enough to talk to. Other times, I am busy or forget for a long time, and when I return to the app, I am not very interested anymore. This is a bad habit because I end up ghosting many matches.

Redditor /u/exGFproblems:

I do it all the time. If I do not feel natural chemistry or they show a major warning sign, I leave. Some think it is rude, but why explain if the reason will hurt or seem cold? Ghosting means I have nothing nice to say.

Redditor /u/Coolingbison257

I ghosted him because I was tired of the games. We were married two years. He cheated and lied many times. He wanted to reconcile after a three-month separation. He cheated again within days. I stopped responding to his texts. I was done with the effort. Ghosting my ex-husband feels bad, but I could not face the divorce talks and fighting anymore.

From Redditor /u/HistoryMystery12345:

We dated for two years. I cheated by texting and sexting other women for nine months. She found out just as I was ending things with the last woman. She stayed because she feared I would leave her for one of the others...

She broke up with me in June but kept in touch. This hurt me. I study abroad now, months in. She still used me as an emotional crutch. Her using me to gain something destroyed my self-worth and confidence. She kept telling me she loved me, missed me, wanted me, missed us, and grieved for us, but she only did this after finding out about my cheating and refused to try (her admission).

I could not handle it. I told her I could not talk anymore under these conditions. I told her she could forgive my actions and wants to genuinely work toward contact. Otherwise, continuing communication hurts me too much. So I ghosted her. I still hope to be with her someday; she says she has hope too. Did ghosting her protect my mind and feelings, or was I selfish? Should I have done anything to stay available if she returned?

From Redditor /u/gretelflerken:

She was exhausting, and I dreaded seeing her; I never looked forward to it. If I tried to tell her I did not want to be friends, she argued, cried, or both. Moving to a new city with kids made it easier to drift away. I stopped answering her calls, texts, and emails. She got the hint eventually!

From Redditor /u/ellyeverts:

A guy confessed his love to me many times. I told him it made me uncomfortable because we did not know each other well. The last time he did that, I was with my crush, so I left him on read. I know it is wrong, but I had no words then, so I said nothing.

From Redditor /u/CochlearCass:

I met a girl at a convention. We exchanged numbers because we had fun, shared interests, and she was cute. We hooked up in her hotel room the last night of the con. Then, we went our separate ways after the convention ended.

She texted me at 1 AM. She got offended I didn't reply. I woke up with ten plus messages and missed calls. I told her I was sleeping and gave her my usual sleep time.

She kept texting me repeatedly. She got extremely clingy, asking why I wasn't responding after just a few minutes of previous messages (I have read receipts on, so I never read them).

After a couple of days, I told her she seemed clingy. She was annoying with how often she texted and tried calling without a reply or even a read message. She tried to make me feel bad about not being her personal friend.

I turned off alerts for her texts and calls. I ignored her until she stopped texting and calling. I hope she got the hint. It has been almost a year since her last message; hopefully, that's the last I hear from her.

Redditor /u/Mor-Rioghan:

I ghosted only one guy. I am an amputee. Before we met in person, he texted me dozens of times once he knew. He asked if he could 'feel' my stump and what it felt like, asking very intrusive, even sexual questions. He also said he wanted to marry me so he could show off his bionic wife if I got a prosthetic. I tried to show him he was creeping me out. When he kept going, I blocked him on all social media and his number. I don't like ghosting even when dates fail, but this guy was creepy; he still gives me goosebumps. I am glad I never met him in person; I am terrified of what he would have been like in person if he acted this way over text.