21 Things Not to Say to a Trans Person

Their real name is the one they gave you.Just gave you that name.If they had a different name before, that's their business.

Trans women are real women.Trans men are real men.Trans men are real men.

Most people do not enjoy people pressuring them about their genitals, especially trans folks.Trans folks do not enjoy being pressured.Trans folks especially do not enjoy being talked to about their genitals.

Switching gender does not affect pleasure or arousal. It is none of your business.

Being yourself is not selfish. A trans person's family not understanding is not their fault. Do not be insensitive.

Most trans people find words like 'tranny' and 'shemale' hurtful slurs. Do not use them.

Most people think you are a disgusting freak show, but not me. I am a good person.

Trans people have better things to do than try to convince you their gender is valid.Be respectful.

Drag queens are male performers who dress as female characters. This is not the same as being trans.Drag queens are male performers who dress as female characters. That is not the same as being transgender.

Sex probably feels like it does for everyone else. Also, it is none of your business.

This is okay only if you want to please the trans person you are with in bed. Otherwise, it is none of your business.

Trans people use the bathroom matching their stated gender identity.Trans people use the bathroom matching their stated gender identity..

Questions like this are rude and tacky.These questions are rude and tacky, for obvious reasons.These questions are rude and tacky, for obvious reasons.

Transvestites are men turned on by wearing women's clothes. That is not the same as being transgender.Transvestites are men turned on by wearing women's clothes. That is not the same as being transgender.

Trans people did not just 'decide to switch.' They were assigned the wrong gender at birth.Trans people were assigned the wrong gender at birth..

'Can I see an embarrassing picture of you from middle school?' It is like that, but much worse and sometimes traumatic.'Can I see an embarrassing picture of you from middle school?' It is like that, but much worse and sometimes traumatic.'Can I see an embarrassing picture of you from middle school?' It is like that, but much worse and sometimes traumatic.

Probably not.Being mis-gendered at birth is not as confusing as this. You may need time to adjust, but think of the sacrifices the person makes to feel comfortable in their body.

Yes.They are 100% sure. (Unless they are gay and trans, which many people are.)

Do not bring up the medical side of transitioning. Many trans people are sensitive about it. Do you enjoy people asking about your medical history out of nowhere?

Trans people do not know your sexual orientation. You must figure that out. They will be insulted if you ask them this.

Trans women can wear a lot of makeup and do their hair up fancy if they want to. What they wear is not up to you.Trans women can wear a lot of makeup and do their hair up fancy if they want to. What they wear is not up to you.